The Anonymous Widower

Widows Wear Stilettos

When I saw this article I thought good.  Widows must carry on.

But it’s totally from a female perspective.  What about men like me!

June 30, 2009 - Posted by | World |

2 Comments »

  1. Let me first convey my deepest sympathies on the lost of your beloved wife. I know that yours has not been an easy road to travel.

    I do get that question often, i.e., “What about the men?”. The fact is that because I’m not a man, I felt that it would have been an insult to widowers to try and write from a “male perspective”. Men are “hardwired” differently than women and their loss perspective is different. I felt that just as widows are insulted when a non-widow tells them, “I know how you feel” (after losing a spouse), had I tried to write from the widower perspective, men would have felt the same way – insulted and as though I could not possibly have any idea what a widower goes through. That said, we have several hundred widower members of Widows Wear Stilettos who have availed themselves of the education offered; both at the website and in the book; as things such as the “business” aspect of widowhood, dating again, raising children and so forth are universal.

    I wish you peace as you continue along on your healing journey.

    Comment by Carole Brody Fleet | June 30, 2009 | Reply

  2. I must admit that I made the comment rather tongue in cheek. Some of the friends who have stood by me are widows, but what I find is that there is very little writing from a male perspective.

    I agree with your last statement as we all have more in common than we don’t.

    And best of luck with your books.

    Comment by AnonW | June 30, 2009 | Reply


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