The Anonymous Widower

The Power of Research

I’ve always been a great believer in research.  This came home to me in spades, when as an engineer at ICI, I was investigating the dynamics of a particular chemical reaction.  In the end, I found a lot of the information I required by going back to the 1900s, where a Chinese researcher working in Canada had obtained the rate constants I needed.  So when you have a problem, there’s probably someone out there who has the information you need.  But it may be extremely difficult to find, like my rate constants.

When C died, I needed help and as I was in touch with Liverpool University at the time, I asked if they had an expert on bereavement. They do in Kate Bennett and several times, I’ve talked things through with her and her research has shown me the way forward. So yesterday, as I had time to spare, I popped in on Kate for a coffee and a chat. All her publications are on her web site.  There is a link there so that you can participate in her research as I have done, and that to me is better than any therapy, as by doing so, you’re not just helping yourself, but others too.

If you think about it, perhaps a million people lose their spouse or partner to death every year in the UK and how much does all this cost the taxpayer through the NHS and in ruined lives?  But little research is done into the subject in reputable instutions to find ways to overcome problems in a constructive way.

I’ve asked Kate simple questions and got simple answers, which have been invaluable.

So thank you Kate for your help and support, these last three  years.

January 7, 2011 - Posted by AnonW | Health, World | Liverpool, Psychology