The Anonymous Widower

Laura Craik Would Have Pleased C

Laura Craik’s fashion article in The Times magazine yesterday would have been right up C’s street, as it was all about colour. C was a barrister and despite this she avoided black as much as she could. Her uniform colour was often dark blue and often her only black was thick tights. I don’t think she actually had a matching set of black bra and briefs though! She certainly never in the forty years I knew her, ever owned a black swimsuit, coat or evening dress.

She always said that colour, helped her to stand out and she’s not the first professional woman, who’s told me that!

But as C would joke, the black she did have, meant she had no problems at funerals.

February 24, 2013 - Posted by | News | ,


  1. Interesting “take” on colour. Dressing in black, during the many years (23) that I lived in Greece, was generally still, for a woman, the sign that she was a widow, although I noticed my younger unmarried female students in Athens also tended to wear a lot of black as a fashion statement. Indeed, one of my students claimed to have only black, white and grey clothes in her wardrobe so as to avoid colour co-ordination problems.

    I expect that one reason for C’s avoidance of black in general was due in part to seeing it around her all the time in her work as a barrister.

    Comment by Janice Mermikli | February 24, 2013 | Reply

    • Partly that! But remember, I knew her since she was eighteen and before she qualified as a barrister around thirty, she was never wore black. I also don’t think she ever wore black jeans, casual trousers or skirt, blouse or shirt.

      Comment by AnonW | February 24, 2013 | Reply

  2. How refreshing that she saw a connection between then clothes she wore and the emotions they triggered – and how lovely that you can see colour and think of her xxxxx

    Comment by MasonBentley | February 24, 2013 | Reply

    • The one colour she didn’t wear too often was yellow. She said that it didn’t suit here, but there was also the big problem at Newmarket’s July racecourse in the summer, where anybody in yellow got covered in the flies that inhabitated the trees on hot days. I did keep a few of her clothes, but most went to charity shops. There is an amazing Sarah Spencer purply-pink long dress, from the 1970s, which one day I hope gets worn by someone who fits it. My granddaughter might, if I live that long. But it is a genuine eight and you need good shoulders and arms to wear it. I’ve also got her wedding dress which is a sixties classic, that was made-to-measure. But it’s probably too small for even Victoria Beckham!

      Comment by AnonW | February 24, 2013 | Reply

  3. At present I have quite a lot of black in my wardrobe, because I am (unintentionally) shrinking in size, and have had to replace all my clothes. I have bought a lot of black basics – pants, skirts, jeans, legging, jackets and cardigans. Then brighter tops and t-shirts, and bright scarves, so everything sort of co-ordinates and I can look nice and co-ordinated without having to buy too much stuff.

    Comment by Liz P | February 24, 2013 | Reply

    • I thought you wanted to get smaller. But if you buy new clothes, you then won’t be able to afford to put the weight back on.

      Comment by AnonW | February 24, 2013 | Reply

  4. Complicated James, it is a side effect of having the rehab training to allow me to propel my own chair. However, I have developed a difficult health problem as a direct result of the weight loss, which I wont horrify and revolt you by explaining, but it is not nice. My past experience, and the experience of most people who lose a lot of weight, is that eventually the weight goes back, regardless of diet, exercise etc. I havent got rid of the bigger stuff, but it is ridiculously too big. Throughout all of this, my diet hasnt altered at all, which was always good, healthy and had the correct levels of calorie, the food groups, vitamins and minerals etc. But most people cant accept that to be the case.

    Comment by Liz P | February 24, 2013 | Reply

    • I do sometimes wonder if coeliacs have difficulty losing and gaining weight. I’ve been a constant weight since I was about 17, although I’ve only been diagnosed as a coeliac for the last fifteen.

      Comment by AnonW | February 24, 2013 | Reply

  5. Have answered privately

    Comment by Liz P | February 24, 2013 | Reply

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