The Anonymous Widower

Remembering A Relative Or Friend

In seven days it would have been my late wife’s sixty-eighth birthday.

C gave her body for medical research and we had a private cremation a year or so later.

In her memory and also in that of my son, who died of pancreatic cancer in 2010, I helped to fund in a very small way some research into the disease at my mine and my late wife’s university of Liverpool.

I wrote about the research in There’s More To Liverpool Than Football And The Beatles!

In some ways, the successful outcome of the research, gave me an enormous lift and now when I think of my son, I sometimes think, that others will hopefully not have to go through, what he and his family did!

Serious research can do that!

So I got to thinking, that perhaps when a friend or relative dies, we should start a fund and give the money to an appropriate charity, that funds research into whatever was the cause of their death.

My funding of Liverpool University’s Pancreatic Cancer research that came about because I asked Alumni Relations at the University to suggest a suitable research project for my donation.

The Devil must have blessed the donation and the research produced a positive result.

But not everyone can be so lucky.

So why not, when someone close to you dies, collect an appropriate amount of money and ask the major charity or perhaps as I did, your old University to find a project to help fund?

I would think that it could be best to go to a central charity like Cancer Research UK or the British Heart Foundation, as they might now something that was very suitable, based in a University of research institution convenient to where you live!

I feel that selecting a well-run and well-respected central charity is that they know the ropes and that the world is littered with charitable failures, set up by individuals with the best of intentions.

August 19, 2016 - Posted by | Health | , , ,

1 Comment »

  1. I think donations such as this are really important, and a great idea. When my aunt died, many years ago now, we asked her consultant if there was a research project or a piece of equipment he or his dept was involved in, and he told us about a project – I don’t remember exact details. Dad had an ileostomy many years before his death, and he asked if we would do the same thing, for his local ileostomy association who were extending the community support for people post operatively – they were a small local charity and they provided all kinds of support for the rest of people’s lives long after the NHS discharged their patients.

    I find it sad to see people paying a lot of money for flowers after a death – and I really get quite cross when everyone goes and puts huge expensive bouquets and teddies etc at the site of an accident. That money spent could do so much good.

    I have a set of criteria which I use when choosing to give to a charity for whatever reason. And there are certain charities I choose not to support – ones which only support one race, religion or culture, Ones which have political objectives including not only political parties but also charities which exist almost exclusively to lobby parliament. Plus of course those whose aims I don’t agree with. And I am more likely to give to a small local charity which struggles for support rather than some of the national ones which everybody else gives to.

    Comment by nosnikrapzil | August 21, 2016 | Reply


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