The Anonymous Widower

It’s Just Not Good Enough!

On Sunday morning, I heard a guy called the Casual Hopper on BBC Radio 5.  As he was raising money for a reputable cancer-related charity, I thought I might send him a donation.

So I logged in to his Just Giving page and donated, using my John Lewis Partnership card. I got an acknowledgement from Just Giving, as expected. However, a few minutes later, I got a message from them saying that the payment had been rejected.  Now as I’d just paid my credit card bill, I knew that I was some thousands of pounds below my credit card limit.

I then attempted to login to my Partnership card account and found the problem.  Their system was down and I couldn’t log in.

I have managed to login this morning, but there is no trace of the payment to the Casual Hopper.  In fact, there is no trace of any payments made by the account and I used the card twice yesterday in Sainsburys and Waitrose.

If we can use our cards on a 24-hour basis, surely we ought to be able to see the information in a likewise manner.

After all, if I missed a payment, they’d be on me like a ton of bricks.

It’s just not good enough!

Especially, as it’s caused grief and extra work to a whole series of people like the Casual Hopper, Just Giving and of course myself.

August 19, 2013 Posted by | Computing, Health, World | , , | Leave a comment

Barbican Station

I have some happy memories of Barbican Station and on Saturday, I passed through on the way to the Anniversary Games.

Barbican Station

Barbican Station

I can particular remember pushing our youngest son in his buggy along the central platform, from where the picture was taken, sometimes with C and our two sons and sometimes without.

Sad to think, that C and the baby in the buggy have both died from cancer.

July 27, 2013 Posted by | Transport/Travel | , , , | Leave a comment

More On Immunocore

I found this excellent article on Immunocore, which is the company behind the possible cancer cure, I mentioned yesterday. \Here’s a flavour of the article.

In all probability, Immunocore is the only company worldwide that has been able to develop a way to harness the power of the immune system’s natural-born killer cells: the T-cells of the blood that kill invading pathogens, like viruses and bacteria, the Independent reported.

Obviously, it’s too late for my wife and son, but hopefully it will bring a pathway to help others in the future.

July 15, 2013 Posted by | Health | , | Leave a comment

Is This Bad News For Cancer?

This report from the Independent headlined, Exclusive: Cancer – A cure just got closer thanks to a tiny British company – and the result could change lives of millions, was flagged up on BBC Radio 5 this morning and is a fascinating read.

It seems that researchers may have found a way to get the body’s T-cells to attack the cancer cells.

I think everything in the report sounds feasible and the company in Oxford; Immunocore, have now got masses of backing from two of the largest pharmaceutical companies. So money for the research won’t be a problem.

In some ways, this research all fits with my belief that if you have a healthy immune system, you are less likely to get cancer. Hence my gluten-free diet and abhorrence of smoking.

July 14, 2013 Posted by | Health, World | | 1 Comment

Sequins On My Balcony

I went to see this entertainment at the Rosemary Branch last night.

To say it was uplifting would be an understatement, but to anybody who’s been affected by breast cancer either personally or through a family member or friend’s suffering, Yvette Cowles  got it absolutely right in my view.  I have never had any cancer, that I know of, but what Yvette  said about fighting breast cancer, could have applied so much to C and her successful fight against her lump.

Nothing though, helped in C’s unsuccessful fight against the cancer that killed her.

June 7, 2013 Posted by | Health, World | , , | Leave a comment

Advice For Expectant Mothers

There is a widely trailed story today about what expectant mothers should avoid. It’s here on the BBC. This is the main advice.

  1. Use fresh organic food rather than processed
  2. Avoid food and drink in cans and plastic containers
  3. Minimise use of moisturisers, cosmetics, shower gel and fragrances
  4. Avoid buying new furniture, fabrics, non-stick frying pans and cars when pregnant or nursing

When C was pregnant with our first child, she was a student in her last year at Liverpool University.  She actually did her exams at nearly seven months pregnant.  She got a II-2, so she couldn’t have done badly.

She didn’t purposedly avoid any chemicals, but as the nice flat we lived in didn’t have a shower, she did at least avoid shower gel, which is on the list of products to avoid. As to the last point, we couldn’t afford new furniture or cars. our frying pan had been borrowed from her mother and was a well-used steel one, complete with a bit of added rust. Did it put iron into the food?

Neither of us smoked, although throughout her pregnancy, she had to endure the Capstan Full Strength cigarettes of her tutor; Robert Kilroy Silk.

But advice was different in those days.  We went to stay with a family in Hingham in Norfolk, where C had been a mother’s help during University holidays.  The mother, who incidentally was the daughter of a doctor, asked if she’d like a brandy before going to bed, as it would make the baby sleep better. She declined, but only because she was pretty abstemious with alcohol.

We also moved south just a week or so before the expected birth date and then in London, she didn’t have a hospital. I told that story in a post called Waiting for Apollo 11. Theses are the links to Part 2 and Part 3 of the story. We didn’t do boring, even in 1969.

We all survived and the only question, that sometimes comes to mind, is was the cancer that killed her caused by all of those smoky tutorials forty years before she died?

I do know that if she was here today, she’d be laughing like a drain!

June 5, 2013 Posted by | Health, World | , , , | Leave a comment

Angelina Jolie’s Example

I’ve never had breast cancer, but my late wife, C did, in her late fifties. She caught the cancer early and luckily only had a lump and lymph nodes removed, followed by a course of radiotherapy. She made a complete recovery and the cancer never returned.  Sadly she died of a totally unrelated cancer a few years later.

I think Angelina Jolie’s upfront approach to her double mastectomy is to be praised. It’s reported here on the BBC. I know that Angelina has a lot more money than all of us and probably had the best surgeon, that money could buy, and C had a surgeon, who works extensively in the NHS, although she went privately.  But her outcome was good and provided she was careful about what she wore, no-one knew that she’d had an operation. She was still able to wear a bikini, as I reported here. She also had to be reasonably careful about the bra she wore.

One thing that worried her, was that from professional experience, breast cancer operations, were quite a large cause of divorce, and I think she worried about my attitude to her body, after the operation. So I would also praise Brad Pitt for his support of his wife.  Too often, in C’s experience, men often went looking for a perfect model.

I think my advice to anybody going through cancer or any other serious medical treatment, is to make sure you get a doctor, who you can trust and get yourself as fit as you can both before and after the treatment. And don’t rush things! Even with my stroke, the best advice I had was from a man, I bumped into on a train.  He turned out to be a retired professor of medicine, who’d worked a lot with stroke patients.  He said  that time will be the biggest healer. I think now, three years later that has been very true.

I also wonder if those going through serious operations, in a stable relationship have a better chance of recovery.

June 4, 2013 Posted by | Health | , , | Leave a comment

Love Is All You Need

I saw Love Is All You Need tonight at the Barbican cinema.

It was I think the first Danish film, I’ve ever seen and it was certainly one of the few films at which I cried at the end.

But then the two main characters were a widower and a woman going through breast cancer.  I am of course the first and C suffered a bought of breast cancer, which she successfully overcame.

On the whole though it is an excellent film and quite uplifting.

April 23, 2013 Posted by | World | , , , | Leave a comment

Cancer Isn’t Funny!

But!

They were just talking about drugs for cancer on BBC Breakfast.

They were interviewing a guy from Wolverhampton with stomach cancer, whose specialist at the local hospital said that he should get a second opinion. So his wife searched the Internet and found that his specialist, was one of the world’s leading experts in keeping people alive with stomach cancer. According to the interviewee, she then said “What’s he doing in Wolverhampton?”

There was a lot more in a similar vein.

It was a classic interview about a serious subject, conducted with a real Midlands sense of humour.

April 4, 2013 Posted by | Health, News | , , | Leave a comment

The Joy Of Global Warming

Bjorn Lomborg likes to provoke and this article in the Sunday Times certainly does. He starts the article like this.

As I fly into a snow-bound Britain, I realise that you might be asking where global warming has gone as you shiver in the coldest March for 50 years and wonder what you will do if gas has to be rationed. I have been involved in the climate debate for more than a decade, but I am still amazed at how wrong we get it. Let us try to restart our thinking on global warming.

Yes, global warming is real and mostly man-made, but our policies have failed predictably and spectacularly.

He then goes on to say that Kyoto has failed.

But he does produce a solution that could be a win-win situation for everyone.

He says that we should spend money on research!

He is  right!

Just look what has happened to products like computers because money has been spent on research!

I have heard some wacky ideas to generate energy and cut carbon dioxide emissions over the last few years.  Some of them might just be the things we do to save the planet.

But then engineers and scientists have a track record in digging us out of the holes that politicians and others have got us into.

Where for instance would Britain be today without the genius of Henry Royce, Lord Hives, RJ Mitchell, Alan Blumlein, Alan Turing and Sydney Camm.  Under a Nazi jackboot perhaps?

But they and others answered Churchill’s plea and gave the country the tools to finish the job.

A similar massive effort today on a world-wide basis would I believe solve the problems of global warming and create a world fit for our descendents.

The same approach could be used on all of the major problems of the world like cancer, providing clean water, housing and food production.

April 1, 2013 Posted by | Food, World | , , , , , , | Leave a comment